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Witness Interview: Huey
James
Mr. Huey James, formerly of Detroit, was one of the many
foster parents who took Doris Hammack into their homes
briefly during her childhood. This interview was conducted
by telephone on Tuesday, May 19, 1998.
N = Detective. Terrence Nelson
J = Huey James
N: Mr. James, thanks for agreeing to talk with me. Can
you hear me okay on your end?
J: Yeah, I got this thing from the phone company that makes
you sound real loud. I can hear you fine, but talk slow and
clear, okay? My hearing's still not so great. This new
hearing aid is junk. They don't make things good
anymore.
N: You got that right. Mr. James, I'd like your
permission to record this conversation. Makes it easier for
me than writing notes.
J: Okay, don't see any harm in that.
N: Mr. James, for the record would you please give me
your full name, age, address and occupation?
J: Huey James, I'm 80 years old. You can call me Huey, go
ahead. I get tired of Mr. James this, and Mr. James that,
here at the nursing home. I've lived in this nursing home
since my last heart attack in '96, the Palm Court Rest Home
in Florence, Florida. I'm a widower and I'm retired, but I
worked on the Chrysler assembly line for years. Mellie, that
was my wife, she and me used to live in Detroit.
N: I understand that you and she were foster parents to
many children.
J: Nine, if you count the two we eventually adopted. Good
kids, all of them. Damn shame how their dumb parents screwed
their lives up, though. Some people should be spayed before
they go breeding.
N: Can't say as I'd argue with you, Mr. Huey. Do you
recall a little girl named Doris Hammack?
J: Dorrie? Sure. Always wondered what happened to her. She
all right?
N: She's a lovely lady. Seems nice. A bit troubled,
though.
J: That's our Dorrie. What's she gotten into? Not jail?
N: Oh no, she's not in any trouble with us. I can't
really say much about it at this point. She's trying to
research her past here, maybe find her family, making some
statements that we've got to verify. That's why I need your
help.
J: Whatever I can do, son. I love talking about any of my
kids any day of the week. Let's see ... we got her when she
was 12, maybe 12 and a half, and only had her for, oh, about
six months. She'd been through two foster homes already by
then. She was a sweet kid, one of two fosters we had at that
time. The other was Manuel Diaz. He was a battered kid,
didn't talk much, but very angry. We got him when he was 14,
just a month or so before Dorrie arrived. He was almost 16
before he really began to trust us. He was one of the ones
we adopted, by the way. He's a good fellow now, married, two
kids, and still comes to visit me two or three times a year
and brings the kids by. Makes my whole week, or month, to
tell the truth. All the way down here from Detroit, can you
believe it? He and Dorrie, though. Whoooooo-eeee. The two of
them sure put me through -- what does that commercial call
it? -- some "Mylanta moments".
N: What, they didn't get along?
J: It wasn't that. She was such a clingy little girl, and he
just wasn't ready to be somebody's hero. She kept saying he
was "like a big brother" to her, and Manuel just couldn't
take that.
N: Why was that? Sorry, I don't know much about these
kids.
J: That's all right. They're hard to understand -- even hard
to love, sometimes -- even when you've got them right in
front of you. But the social workers told us when we started
being foster parents that they need love most when they're
at their most unlovable. It's true. Was for Manuel at first,
anyway. He had his reasons. See, he got put in our home
after the state took him away from his mom and stepfather.
The stepdad had beaten his little brother so bad the kid got
brain damage and had to be put in a state home eventually. I
don't mind telling you about it now, although I wouldn't
have violated Manuel's privacy back then by talking to you
like this. But I know Mannie wouldn't mind now. Both his
stepdaddy, the scum, and the mom as an accessory, got jail
time. After that, Manuel didn't want to be nobody's big
brother anymore. We'd just about got him to open up to us
when Dorrie got here, set her eyes on him and decided right
then that he was her wonderful new big brother. Mannie
didn't want any part of it.
N: He rejected Doris?
J: That's just it. Rejection. But he was so hurt himself,
you know? You could see him just gritting his teeth
sometimes when Doris would go up to him and hug him. The kid
couldn't stand to be touched for the longest time, and
Dorrie was such an affectionate little thing, she just
couldn't understand that. I tried to explain to her, see
Manuel had gotten a broken arm himself trying to stop the
stepdad during his little brother's last beating. Give him
time, Dorrie, I said. She was just a kid, she was too little
to stop herself. It's a hard adjustment, coming into a
strange home. She thought she'd found a hero, but he was
just a scared, angry kid himself.
N: Can you tell me more about what she was like as a
child, please?
J: Like I said, affectionate, a little clingy, but who
wouldn't be, abandoned like that when she was just a
kindergartner. Not that anybody had bothered taking her to
kindergarten before she went to Immaculata. Still, she was
smart, knew all her numbers and alphabet and could read a
few little sentences even then, the nuns said. She was
getting good grades, too, when we got her, even though she'd
been bounced around so much by then.
N: That's admirable.
J: Yeah, we were real proud of her. She's going places, we
used to say, if she could just get her heart healed up and
get those crazy notions out her head. She was such a pretty
little thing, too, but so hungry for attention. She was real
moody, as I recall. She'd get a crazy notion in her head and
nobody could talk her out of it, and she'd finally get real
depressed if nobody listened to her and really believed her.
I tried, and Mellie tried, but some of her stuff was just
too much. That's part of what the problems were with the
other foster families.
N: What sort of notions?
J: Well, she got it in her head that her parents were
murdered or something, it had to do with some bad dreams
she'd been having for years. The social worker told us all
about this belief of hers and to just disregard it. It
wasn't true, you see, not that anybody knows of, anyway. But
she believed it, and she'd wake up screaming about some "bad
man" out to get her, and my wife or I'd be up for an hour or
two just calming her down and getting her back to sleep. It
was hard on everybody. Some foster parents can't take such
as that. But we were okay with that, we could handle that
part of it.
N: Did that go on often?
J: It varied. Sometimes just once a month, sometimes two or
three times a week she'd wake up with that old nightmare. It
seemed to depend on what kind of a day she was having, I
think. Hey, the kid was doing her best. We knew that. It's a
shame when kids are emotionally disturbed like that, you
know? That's why we took in all our fosters. We'd raised our
own three and still had all that room at the house. We
thought, why not. We've got enough love to go around again.
We tried to give them a stable home with us as loving and
responsible adults, and I like to think we succeeded. Still,
even that's not enough sometimes when the hurt runs too
deep.
N: What was it from her history that seemed to upset her
most?
J: She always used to say she needed to find out more about
her real family, that maybe somebody was still out there
who'd rescue her from the system and take her home,
permanently. I think they'd say today that she had a rich
fantasy life. Anyway, it made it hard for her to get close
to us, since she didn't want to love anybody when some
miracle aunt or uncle might appear someday and take her
home. She felt like it was safe to try to love a big
brother, but not some grownups who might hurt her again. I
understood, but we grieved for her. It didn't hurt my
feelings, but I hurt for her, you know? Mellie and I both
did.
N: It's hard raising kids.
J: It is, it is. I tried to talk to her some, and so did
Mellie. Poor little Dorrie she hoped so much. They all want
to believe something other than the same old sordid family
stories, by the way. Dorrie was no different just kept on
believing long past when most kids have given up.
N: What did you say to her,? If you remember.
J: We had that conversation so much, I still know it by
heart, young fella. I tried to tell her, gently, what her
official records showed, that her last surviving relative
had simply died, and she had got taken by some concerned
lady to Immaculata so she'd be safe. I didn't tell her the
truth, that some selfish woman had just dumped her there and
dashed away. I figure it was maybe a neighbor, or maybe even
a distant relative who didn't want the complication. It
happens all the time, friend. Too much. I tried to let Doris
know she'd always have a place in our hearts, that she could
be in our family now, if she wanted.
N: So what happened with that? I take it that didn't work
out?
J: Manuel. She couldn't take the rejection. It seemed to
hurt her too much, you know? She kept crying and all when he
shut her out, when he wouldn't talk to her, threw her out of
his room and when he yelled at her. We tried talking to them
both, but it didn't help much. She took it way out of
proportion. Kids that age, they think tomorrow will never
come. The early teens and pre-teens, we learned quickly it's
an age when they think in black and white, absolutes. All
high-drama stuff, but hard on you when someone rejects you.
You think it's gonna last forever. Anyway, she was having
such a hard time of it we, Mellie and I, thought it was best
for both the kids if they weren't together. We discussed
with the social worker and I still regret that it worked out
that way. She thought the social worker was punishing her.
It about broke all our hearts. It was the right thing to do
though.
N: Was there anything else that stood out about your time
with Doris?
J: No, just that she was a sweet kid. I think I've told you
most everything. And listen, I don't want to give you a
wrong picture of her. That kid was a survivor. She'd already
been through so much. She was just in so much pain then. She
didn't know how to deal with it. She was a kid, and she'd
had to handle just too much.
N: Did you ever find out more about her background,
relatives?
J: No. Only what I've told you. Makes it hard not to know
anything at all about your past.
N: Mr. Huey, I do thank you for taking the time to talk
with me.
J: Huey, son. No Mr. on it, okay? You know, you've gladdened
my heart to let me know she's all right today. I always
hoped.
N: Thanks for your time, Huey. May I call you again if I
think of any other questions?
J: Sure, I don't get many calls nowadays. Tell Dorrie to
give me a call, she can come see me sometime maybe, sure
would like to see her again.
N: I'll pass that along. Thanks, sir.
J: Thanks, son. You made an old man's day.
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